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Moms with addicted children. Dandelions. Addiction Quotes. Sandy Swenson

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  1. Debra

    Thank you, I sure needed to see that I really wasnt turning my back on my 41 yr old son, but in fact I had to step aside I was not doing him any favors. Its so hard not knowing if he is alive or in jail…. emotions hit hard from time to time and it hurts

    1. Rosemary

      I just lost my son who was also 41, to relapse to drugs, he had been in rehab and was clean since August 5, 2020. He had moved to a sober living house and did not follow up with support or any counseling, not that he did not want to, but was not helped.

      I had six beautiful months of memories with him and his desire to get well from this disease. I am and have been raising his 9-year-old daughter. He died on April 2, and we are planning his memorial service for the 24th.

  2. Christine

    3 out of 4 sons. All methamphetamine and the big H addicts. My quote is ” No one wants to talk to the mother of an addict….. ASK ME”
    We have to put up or shut-up! Fight like a momma!.
    Have you ever lived on the other side of a warm hug?? It’s called a cold shoulder.
    In our society we throw all addicts back to the only place, the only ones who will accept an addict, another addict. Back to the world of addiction. Then we cry. ALOT!
    I am a nurse of 30 years, and devout Christian. I’ve seen this scenario this happens, everyday everywhere. Church, home, medical fields everywhere. 3 sons, 2 in rehab recovering, 1 fighting denial. Statistics show momma’s fight and support their children 100% +100% x 100 more. Fight like a MOMMA! It is a long scary lonely road that only a Momma can walk. “I will hold your hand son, every step of the way. Wether it’s on the road of recovery or as you breathe your final breath.”
    My sons are 23-29 & 31. Addicts since age 12. I never knew, until I knew. That’s how it goes. It us what it is.
    I’m meaner and stronger than thus and my Father, God us bigger.

  3. M. Williams

    To all of the struggling parents of addicts, I am a recovering addict. I put my family through absolute HELL with my addiction, I used and abused them in any way I could and blamed them for everything I could. I put myself in some very bad situations where I was hurt badly. I wasn’t in my right mind and I thought I knew everything, I didn’t want to hear anything that anyone had to say as far as getting help. I went to rehab twice and left both times and I went to jail. I left my kids with my parents because I knew I wasn’t making the right choices to keep them safe. After 15 years of drug use my family was done putting up with me and my whirlwind of negativity so they quit answering the phone or letting me see my kids. I had nowhere to go and I had lost my family for good, so I thought. I was finally done, once I made up my mind I stopped using. No rehab, I was done suffering and hurting the ones I love. The addict has to want to get clean and sober or they wont ever b able to quit. I am now 3 years sober and a full time college student and have my beautiful kids back. Everyone will walk a different path but addicts will do anything to get what they want. Nothing matters unless it gets them high. It’s not anybody fault, it’s the addicts poor choices that led them down the dark path. As a parent you need to quit beating yourself up because it’s not your fault and nothing you do will “fix” this problem. The addict has to want it and make the necessary changes to beat it. I hope this helps at least one parent with a heavy heart. God bless you!

      1. Andrea

        Thank you I need your words of reflection my daughter is a 26 year oldtwin who has neglected her son’s again. It’s been7 years now. Family Court and Foster care agree to give her children in 2017 one for Thanksgiving and the other for Christmas after she had only 60 days clean in a rehab that also had a mother and child component of their program. She did well until getting a cellphone, outside visits to people, places and things whilevher monies were being saved. After graduating sgphe returned to the children’s Dad the supposedvto be love of her life, with the denial of domestic violence and relapse. The children were returned to me again in 2018. I did not agree to them returning with their Mom until sheh ad at least more than 90 days clean and I saw this coming. Today, I am 2 months away from GOD willing seeing/ being 20 years clean and sober, My grandsons are ages 7yrs. and 4yrs. old. I am hurting and crying daily for my daughter and there’s grief for 3 lost loved ones. Well April of 2019 I lost my STEPDAUGHTER, then in November after 31 yrs. I lost the father of my children followed by the lost of my Father in January 2020 when Covid -19 was just becoming recognized. My heart beasts were so rapid from their deaths and hurt so bad the doctor put me on heart meds. Yes 50 mgs. but today I downgraded to 25mgs. Thank GOD and my prayers are still being answered causes I do get visit from my addicted daughter weekly to my home. Foster care is changing to Kinship care and my tolerance for the children is challenging some days. My other adult children one who is my 18 yr. old daughter resides with me so there’s help, whereas the other adult children assist me and the boys sometimes and a few live a a one block away with my Mom and the rest live a bus ride from me. I am a teacher and alot of days due to my addicted daughter, Covid-19:, and a failed relationship with a dear friend who became a chronic relapsed, I cry and pray because my life makes we feel like I am sober and stuck in the housecraising young chikdren again at age 57. I have a teaching job with NYCDOE but the children are doingvremo he learning therefore I cannot return to my own classrooms to teacher other children. My grandson need to be nurtured, loved and to learn the basic educational, cultural, social skills need to survival in different environments. I am fulfilling the job well but feel like I want to escape to country we noone can find me ever again but I will not leave these innocent handsome grandsons. I am a grandmother to 9 grands ages 6 mos( girl), 2,(girl), ages 6 (twins boy & girl), 10( boy) age 16 (boy), age 17 (girl)`including the two grandsons I am raising. So where to the heck am I going. Thank GOD I am sober and their are still meetings on Zoom, there i s support from other AA/ NA/ Al Anon friends and my peer from several churches were I h ave participated. Thank GOD for my own Mother who hung in there when I started using substances at 27 to medicated my feeling because I lost set of twin daughters, one died in and the other one died in 1990. Yes I tried to kill myself and if you asjpked me back then about GOD I was angry will him for taking my children from me. Well, I surrendered one day when this lady asked me this simple question. Why are you out here ppregnnant a gain with you rvthird set of twins getting high. I informed her because God took my kids away. Who let’s you carry babies inside you to fill the joy and snatch them both away. This lady and I were sitting on a bench and I had the funds to buy drugs but for some reasons the getting high was not working anymore. That’s when she stated God is the maker and Father of all of us., and your children were his children first and that I was only the vessel to carry them. Talk about tge seed being planted and havung a spiritual awakening. I surrender and continue to b e a part of God today and the No Matter What Club. I am so glad right to do some free typing when really it’s passed my bedtime and I need to be up for school again with the grandsons. I needed to vent because I love my addiicted daughter and hope she surrenders one day to the disease of addiction and becomes the best MOTHER she can be to her sons if these grandsons are willing to be loved by their Mom with or without the resentents. Please keep me in your thoughts and daily prayers. Keeping it Real. Andrea NYC

    1. Patrucia Johnson

      Thank you…I am the mother of an addict…she is 40….blames me for everything…my heart hurts….she has 2 daughters who she left 8 years ago…comes and goes…now wants to be in their life….everyones fault they were taken by their father…and for a year me…the oldest who is 15 has lived with her for a year but wants to come home….i keep hoping she will change…she is on methadone…but still uses side…as she says she needs it for her ADHD….financially draining on me….

  4. Broken Mom

    My son has been on drugs since a teenager and now is 33. I didn’t see this at all until about 7 years ago. You ask, how could I not tell? I don’t know! Maybe love blind maybe stupidity, maybe a lot of reasons that’s unexplainable. I didn’t even realize how bad the drugs were in his life until the day he drew a knife on me and said he’d gauge out my eyes. He’s tore my family into shreds. Hes went through 2 marriages and has a son who is now in my care. He’s burned so many bridges with family members that there’s hardly family left for him. I believe his dad and myself is all he has left and we’re slowly fading out too. He’s been in rehab only to get kick out due to a dirty “p” test, of weed, went to another and was able to relapse there on meth. He called us threatening to overdose on heroine and we decided to go get him for fear of his imminent death. He couldn’t handle the rules here so he only stayed for a few weeks. Now, I look at him and I wonder where is the son I prayed for? Where is the man who needs to be the dad to his own son? I’ve learned though that I still love him no matter what although he blames me for all the mistakes and troubles in his life. I have blamed me!!! I’ve wondered where did I go wrong what could I have done differently? But in raising his son trying to teach him to make the right choices I’ve taught myself that my son chose these bad choices. He’s made the wrong decisions and “NO it’s NOT my fault”!!! I don’t like who my son has become. The son I know is warm and loving and caring but somewhere in the midst of drug use my son is lost. Lost to the addiction of drugs. I don’t know if my son will ever return. My heart aches for him but it’s his choice it’s his life. I can’t change one thing in it. The only thing I can do is stand afar and watch and wait with open arms for my son to be clean and sober. That’s when I’ll reach for him and hold him once more.

  5. Esther

    May God Almighty help us all!! The addict and the parent/parents of the addict. Thanks for the quotes and I pray the bondage of addiction breaks in the name of Jesus!! My son is going on 11 years and has completely wore me out, in and out of jail, has gone to prison, the lying, stealing, manipulation. One day soon this world and all its evil will vanish and if we believe in Jesus, our Savior, we will be with him throughout eternity where there will be no more pain, death, crying, sorrow, only pure joy and everlasting peace! Amen. Thank you Jesus.

  6. Gina

    Update: My addicted son turned 40 years old in 2016.
    A few days prior to Easter, he suddenly contacted his younger brother in order to “bond” with him.
    Translation: Addicted son, as he’s done prior, was trying to triangulate, blame me for his lot in life/refusal to subsidize/enable his drug addiction.
    It was unsuccessful & addicted son was enraged.
    On Easter, he or someone he instigated to do so, texred me naked male photos & prompted me by name to…
    It was a wakeup call for me.
    While I’d installed/maintained boundaries with addicted son, communication access was maintained in case he decided to get clean.
    Instead, this turn of events inspired me to change my phone number.
    Addicted son, one more time on Mother’s Day of that year, along with his eldest step-daughter, (whom I’d considered to be my grandchild), sent me a FB message to wish me a Happy Mother’s Day & to say they loved me.
    My DIL had divorced addicted son & married someone else who appears to have provided a more stable home for the grandchildren than they’d ever experienced.
    Meanwhile, ex-DIL’s own mother passed away unexpectedly three months later.
    She was a stable influence with her grandchildren.
    Addicted son has long destroyed any relationship the grandchildren & I shared.
    So, my grief about my adult addict son is tempered by all the collateral damage he’s created around him.
    There’s a saying that there’s a difference between being a relative & being a family member.
    This might sound like a “downer” and while I do get angry when discussing it, I realize that all of it is out of my hands.
    * my then 49 year old addict brother overdosed & died some years back.
    One thing I can tell you, (for myself), that as devastating as that was, I came out the other side realizing that I’d have done the same tough love all over again if I had to do it all over again, (which I am).

    1. Missy Wheeler

      I have 2 children Mason 20 Makayla 18. I raised them away from my family mother included due to drug use. I thought that
      Would be enough but I was wrong. My son started with the pot and then my daughter. They are both great people never in trouble. But now my daughter has lost all respect for me. I had gave them an ultimatum 60 days to be clean or move out. We have offered every avenue to help but they choose not to take it. I feel like they died.

  7. Laura Del Ciancio

    My husband and I have custody of our toddler grandson since March 2016. Our son is 38 and has been an addict for over 20 years. Our grandson and his 9 yr. old sister from another daddy were living with their mother who was found to be allowing her house to be used as a drug den. After several attempts we were able to have the police get the children to safety. We have tried to help him many times but found we were only enablers so we finally found the courage to put him out. Heroin is the drug of choice and we have almost lost him several times. We are losing hope and our health is being greatly affected. Your page is a Godsend.

  8. Colleen G.

    Loved Joey’s Song. You had a lot to say that really resonated with me. I have struggled with my son’s addiction for 10 years now. He spent 6 months locked up in jail and in rehab and then overdosed 4 weeks after he was released. I am hoping what you had to say can help me get ready to let go. However, my other son who was 39 died unexpectedly of heart failure 6 months ago, and I don’t know if I have the strength to go through anything more.

  9. Jenn

    My parents have been alcoholics ever since I remember probably since I was about 11. Im now 28 yrs old still dealing with it my parents are married and they enable each other my dad doesn’t care about hisself or my mom. My mom says she still wants help then I try let her stay with me she stays one night leaves the next morning! Shes 100lbs there relationship is holding on just so they can drink together that is all they have nothing in common just to drink! My dad has lost his mind on alcohol and I dont trust him at all bc I dont know what he would do when he drinks! Im struggling bc they have done this for too long to us kids.. and I have two kids of my own. I dont know what the right decision is to let the kids to continue to see them live there drunk lives or cut them out from there lives for good.. in less there sober I told her shes done seeing them but I don’t think she cares alcohol is there life. All they care about! Im going to watch them.kill.themselves and have to bury them. Is that fair no but it’s life its really affecting me as a person and I know I will never become them. Ive dealt with my own demons and moved on from that lifestyle and I wont go back I want to live and be a good sober parent so my kids wont suffer like we suffer dealing with them always worried whats going to happen next… ive gotten them help before my dad but mom had never been into treatment anyone have any advice im dying inside too bc this is what they choose.. please anyone know what could help

  10. Gina

    Enablers= codependents. They think they’re helping the addict but in actuality, they are helping to facilitate the
    addicts usage of drugs.
    I think there should be an exception to this term when it comes to the mother of an addict.
    She comes from a very different place when she “enables” her child.
    She carried that baby in her womb. She birthed that baby into the world.
    She gathered that baby in her arms and loved, fed, and nurtured it.
    She was there for the first tooth and long nights walking the floors, her baby wrapped up in her arms.
    She was the one who celebrated the milestones; turning over, crawling, walking, riding a bike.
    She was the one who shared the wonder all over again through her baby’s eyes at holiday time.
    Home became a home because of that baby.
    It may have been a home before, but that baby centered everything into what was important in this life.
    Family. Love.
    With each tug away, she released her hold on that baby as he/she grew up.
    The first heartaches may have been for the child, but the mom felt them too as she quietly closed the door
    after comforting her baby, and a tear found its way down her cheek.
    We let them go because we’re supposed to, but it goes against all we’ve ever felt or known about that precious
    life we brought into this world.
    And now, we struggle because the terms codependent and enabler are intertwined in intent.
    For the friend enablers, they benefit from their “friend’s” use; addicted to the addict’s highs/lows, getting drugs from them, are addicts themselves or they have this twisted reality that somehow “nurturing” the addict equates cure.
    We mothers just want our babies to be ok, to be safe, to feel love.
    I am the biggest baddest mother to my addict son. He cannot understand why I won’t enable him.
    I won’t enable him because that is the equivalent of walking him to a cliff and telling him it’s ok to jump.
    And that would go against everything that a mother stands for.

  11. Steph

    Thank you for your courage and willingness to share your experiences, thoughts and feelings. Our 17 year old son is an addict and our whole family has suffered for over 2 years. We have left no stoned unturned to try and provide him with whatever help is available. What I’ve learned is that it was not just for him; it was for us, as his parents too so that, at the end of the day we could believe there isn’t anything we wouldn’t do for him and that after it all he MUST know how much we love him so that will fix it, right? No. Wrong. He has to save himself. So many if your quotes resonate with me and are just what I needed to hear today.

  12. mark

    To love a addict is to run out of tears
    it hit home my wife is a addict I love her and hate the addict it’s the hardest thing to live with I feel alone and it’s very comforting to know there is other ppl out there like me thank u for this page

  13. Gina

    I stumbled across some of your quotes with pics on the Internet.
    I love the one with the candle & message:
    “Hug the mom of an addict today. Addiction is so uncomfortable she is often left to suffer great pain alone.”

    My son is going to be 38 in a few months.
    In February of this year, I released him, said I loved him, wasn’t mad at him, gave him my phone number to call or text if ever he wanted to. Detach with love, they call it.
    Before then, it was long periods of avoidance, secrecy, swooping back in trying to con, lying, cruelties. All the things addicts do to the ones they love.
    Enablers. I used to feel great distain & frustration with. How can they not see that no consequences means no chance to evaluate & change the path.
    And THEY were angry at me!! What kind of a mother are you?!
    The kind who refuses to walk her child to the cliff’s edge & say. “Ok. You can jump!”
    I’m not new to this.
    I’ve been down this road before with my late brother.

    You have a great site.
    Thanks for saying it the way it is.

    1. Mom in WV

      Same here. A daughter who will turn 25 in August this year. She’s been in and out of jail/prison since she was 18, in trouble long before that. Every time I would help her I would find out she was just using me for the benefits. Once I stopped those benefits, she hated me. She never called. Never came around. Told people I was mean to her was why she left home. She has 2 beautiful children. A 5 1/2 year old son that I have had since his birth. His father was in prison at the time of birth on federal drugs and firearms charges. He calls me Mommy and calls his Mom by her first name. Now I have to fight for custody of my grandson because the father has now decided he wants him. He’s cheated all of his drug tests and is now off probation so I fear the worst. My daughter also has a daughter of her own, now 8 months old and lives with her young father and his parents over 6 hours away. Brother and sister will never get to know each other during their childhood, play as siblings should, etc. All because of my daughter. The sad thing is, she doesn’t even seem to want to change her bad habits. She doesn’t even care that she has lots her children. I have turned my daughter in to the police, several times, because she was a wanted fugitive and was on drugs bad. People asked me how could I turn my own daughter in knowing she was going to jail. Its like I told them, BECAUSE I LOVE HER, is why and BECAUSE I DON’T WANT TO BURY HER, is why. They STILL don’t understand!!! But guess what?!!! I don’t care what they think. My daughter is safe, at least for the next two years.

      1. Bonny Frauenholtz

        I too, have turned my daughter into the police/probation. It was to save her life. She has been an addict for 10 years. Her downfall began with a rape where she was drugged. I warned her about people drugging girls and to be aware of her drinks but she had the attitude that everybody is good and nothing bad will happen to her. 10 years later, she has been in jail and prison multiple times. she has been in rehab several times. I have let her come home and had to kick her out time after time. I will not let her move back home again. The only help she will get is treatment. The past 10 years has caused a division with the rest of my family including my other daughter. My other daughter and I still talk but it will never be the same. My daughter has been missing for the longest time ever. It has been over a year since I have seen her. The longest in the past was 6 months. This time, I changed the locks on her because she would come in while I was gone with her friends and use in my home. She has stolen from me. She has abused me physically and mentally. Several tines, I have had to look for the car that I owned that she took off with. It usually took months to find the car. The only thing that has stopped her in the past and brought her back to me was to be arrested. This time, she is off probation so it will take a new charge to have her arrested. I know it is only a matter of time. She was released from probation because she finished her last sentence in prison. I do not know what to do anymore. I too have bill collectors calling me. She has medical bills that are unpaid where she required treatment for injuries related to her addiction. The only reason that I know she is still alive after a year is that I see the ads she places online for escorting, which is how she supports her addition. She has used meth, heroin and cocaine. She went from a beautiful girl, a cheerleader in high school, a scholarship for college, a year and a half from her degree to an addicted prostitute with a felony record.

  14. Debbie

    I have watched my baby boy become an addict over the last 10 years. I have tried to help, pushed for treatment, called the police, bailed him out, then realized I was not helping. Letting go seemed to draw him more into that culture of having to get money to buy his own drugs since his abusive badgering of me no longer worked. And he blamed me. Talk about having to be strong!! The manipulation was horrible. His lack of concern for ANYBODY was confusing. But I knew who he use to be. And that is who I believe he still is, only masked by the cravings, withdrawals, need, and control that a substance has on his body. We mothers/parents are not alone!

  15. Tracy

    I let go about two months ago and have been feeling so much guilt. Just hearing you say that letting go is not giving up is so helpful. Thank you for your supportive words. Looking forward to reading your book.

  16. Amy

    Really like your site….. Loving and addict is hard work…. To say the very least. I’m struggling to let go…… It’s hard.

  17. Barbara Dayhoff

    I meant to say I am enjoying myself and my family without the use if drugs and alcohol! This is a Beautiful Website! Thank you I have enjoyed looking at the photos and comments am blogs! Thanks again

  18. Barbara Dayhoff

    I look forward to reading up more on Addiction! The disease I fight everyday of my life! I have been sober for 33 months and these past almost 3 years have been the best years of my life! I am starting to find out who I really am! I love not having to fake the funk and pretend that I am having a good time an enjoying life! I really have started to enjoy myself and my family and I feel genuine about it!


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